Look, they broke up with you for whatever reason, and you are going crazy because he or she has made themselves scarce. What do I mean about scarce? What was once there, isn’t there anymore. Yes, you took him or her for granite. We all do this to some degree. It isn’t until they are gone that they become the most valuable subjects of our life.
They are at high demand, and no matter what you do or say it just pushes them further and further away.
So here’s the deal. There’s a few things, but first. You’ve got to put yourself at high demand also.
You’ve got to become scarce yourself, and you don’t do that by allowing them to think that anytime they decide to call you, that you’ll come running. Big mistake.
30 days of no contact
Give yourself 30 days of no contact. It’s not a period of waiting around for the 30 days to end, so you can quickly contact them again. It’s a 30 day processing period. Did you get that? It’s not about “getting through it”, it’s about “processing it”.
Make a list of all the good things you contributed to the relationship. Now look at the list and realize that they don’t get these things anymore. These are the things of value that he or she is in danger of loosing forever, the longer you go without contacting them. You’ve got to give them time to miss you.
Why the no contact rule?
Only negative, angry feelings are in them now. Which is a good thing by the way.
If they’re angry, then that means they still have strong feelings for you. Once those defensive mechanisms go away, they’ll begin to remember why they loved you in the first place, and remember the good times. If you’ve still got these good feelings, then they do too. Your value begins to go up. You are beginning to attract them.
You can’t “chase” them but “attract” them.
Now you have to create a new you. That old relationship died. It’s dead. It’s called a break up, because it broke.
Now remember, women date guy’s for there potential, not for what or who they are “now”, but for there potential. So, you can’t be a sad sack, but a man of positive outlook. Optimism. Your job is not to get him or her to come back to the old you, but attract them to the new you. You have to change the way they think about you, to the way they feel about you.
Even if you feel like you destroyed your credit with them by bombarding them with phone calls and text’s, if you all of a sudden stop. They’re going to be hurt. You used to give them attention, but not anymore. It will make a huge statement about you. That you decided, first of all, to respect their space, and to take care of you. You are telling them that you are beginning the process of grounding your life without them, and that you don’t need them to live, or better yet, to be happy. They will miss that attention. And you will begin to attract their desire, and they will be wondering what you are doing. Attraction breads desire, and desire breads, “them calling you”.
Michael Fiore (who’s appeared on the Rachael Ray show among other programs) has come up with a simple method for using TEXT MESSAGES to to drag your ex girlfriend or boyfriend back to you like a tractor beam . . . to erase all the negative thoughts she or he has about you and to create the relationship you’ve always wanted with the man or woman of your dreams . . .
“Text messages are the closest thing we have to telepathy,” says Fiore. “With the right texts you can short circuit critical their brain and awaken those deep feelings he or she secretly still has for you in their heart no matter how hard he or she tries to deny them. Just send the right messages in the right order and you’ll be amazed at how they ‘decide’ they want you back all on their own. . .
Click on the picture on the right, and watch this short video to learn Michael Fiore’s method for using TEXT MESSAGES
to bring your ex back into your life (and your bed) . . . it works no matter how long you’ve been broken up, no matter who broke up with who and even if they’re seeing someone else now.
But one quick warning: “Please, don’t use this stuff if you’re manipulative or abusive towards your ex. It’s very powerful stuff and I only want you to use this if you truly believe you and your ex are meant to be together.”